Tanzanian men are the real heartbreakers, Tanasha and a handful of other Kenyan female celebs have experience painful heartbreaks from dating Bongo men.
Cross-border relationships and marriages between Kenyans and Tanzanians is rife considering the shared cultures, even celebs in the two nations have been dating but with disastrous outcome.
A handful of female Kenyan celebs who have dated or married their male counterparts in Tanzania have ended up shading prime tears. See the list below:
Amani and AY
Tanzanian rapper Ambwene Yessaya (AY) dated Kenyan singer Cecilia Wairimu alias Amani for two years before their relationship hit rock bottom.
When they broke up in 2007, there were reports that Amani was deeply heart broken as their relationships was characterized by misunderstandings and quarrels.
However speaking in an interview in 2017, AY denied claims that he frustrated Amani saying that their relationship was ruined by patriotism.
“I met Amani in 2005. We became close friends and later, lovers. We loved and respected each other. In 2007, we split. Contrary to what many speculated, misunderstandings and quarrels did not contribute to the break up.
“The distance and expenses incurred (in making the relationship work) were the main reasons we went our separate ways. Neither I nor Amani was ready to relocate to the other’s country. Patriotism played a part in our decision.
“Everyone loves his or her country; you never tell Amani anything negative about Kenya. She loves Kenya very much. I am also a proud Tanzanian,” said AY.
Kamene Goro quit her job at Ebru TV back in 2014 and moved to Tanzania to get married to the man of her dreams. It was the worst decision she ever made and she still regrets to date.
Even this April 2022 Kamene reflected on her failed marriage to Tanzanian ex husband while speaking on Kiss FM with her co-host Obinna.
She spoked on her failed marriage on her morning show expressing how she regrets her decision to marry the Tanzanian.
Kamene Goro said giving up her career to go and get married was the mistake she regrets the most. She noted that she feels like she could have achieved so much had she not given up her career to settle in the marriage.
“I have been through one/two heartbreaks. I cried for two days before I prayed about it. God helped me through it. I wouldn’t be here if it was not for him. I was crying because of the time I had wasted. I cut my career shot for 3 and a half years. Do you know how many things I could have done?” Kamene lamented.
Kamene had opened up about how toxic her past marriage was in past interviews. She narrated how her ex husband was a serial cheat womanizer and how her mother-in-law frustrated her.
“If I left my ex-husband the first time I knew he cheated that would have been two weeks after I started living in with him,” said Kamene while speaking on Kiss FM with her former co-host Jalang’o.
Kamene also expressed regret for doing nearly all domestic chores at home as her ex husband had reduced her to a housewife.
“I used to be a housewife and here was my routine. My man was to get to work by 8-9 am so I would wake up by 7:00 am. I would pick out the clothes he would wear and iron them, after that, I would run the shower so that the water gets hot.
“I would set his skincare products in one place, as he had a skincare routine. I would make the bed and set out his clothes on the bed. After that, I would go to the kitchen and give orders on what was to be prepared for breakfast. After breakfast, she would prepare him a snack to carry to work.”
In a past interview on Jessy Junction, Kamene revealed that she tendered in a two-day notice in her resignation letter in readiness to start marriage life in Tanzania.
“I got married immediately after I finished my Law degree in 2014. My TV career had just started to pick and I met the then love of my life and he lived in another Country, akaniambia come I want you to be with me. I remember I gave my employer a two days notice…I went wrote the letter and drop it on my boss’s desk. I think it was on a Tuesday, I had just comeback from Zanzibar, did bulletin ya 1PM and wrote the letter and told guys Thursday ndo siku yangu ya mwsisho msinisumbue, and I left.
“Then I settled in Tanzania and became a wife, I was about 23/24. I knew it was a person I wanted to be with. It was someone I had been with for some time… I tell people the story about my EX… but he was actually a really great guy.
“I have left my career and you know how passionate about my work and what I do. By the time I left my job to be with him …I knew I wanted to be with him and I was happy to be his wife,” Kamene Goro narrated.
The media personality further stated that her Tanzanian ex husband dumped her over the phone at a time she was visiting her family in Nairobi.
“I always say up until now, I don’t really know what happened, I look back and it was a really tough relationship towards the end of it. Because I was angry of the things he had done during our courtship and our marriage. He slept out a lot…I didn’t understand that I left my job, family and all the dream I had to be his wife and then unanifanyia hivi.
“So we were just talking on Phone and somewhere in the middle of the conversation he just told me we can’t be together anymore …and that’s how it ended and I remember all I asked him was are you sure? And he said things are better this way… nikakata simu na that was the last time I spoke to him until today. After that I had my lawyers who handled the rest and my things were sent in from Tanzania na life ikaendelea,” said Kamene.
Kamene started having casual flings after her marriage crumbled. On August 27th 2018, Kamene send shockwaves across the country when she confessed that she had slept with 27 men at only 26 years of age.
The Radio and TV personality made the confession during a session dubbed True or False in a whiskey Challenge at NRG studios.
“Let’s not judge me. My body counts stands at 27 as we speak,” said Kamene Goro.
Amina Khalif and Alikiba
Amina Khalef filed for divorce from her Tanzanian husband Alikiba at the Mombasa Kadhis’ Court on January 8th 2022.
The Kenyan cited neglect, stress, frustrations by in-laws and infidelity as the reasons why she wanted the court to dissolve her marriage to the Tanzanian singer.
“The respondent (Ali Kiba) has made a mockery of their marriage by disrespectfully engaging in public displays of infidelity with various women in total disregard of the petitioner’s feelings,” said Amina Khalif in her affidavit.
Alikiba and Amina have had a troubled marriage, the Kenyan often ran away to Mombasa multiple times over domestic wrangles with her Tanzanian husband.
The wrangles in Amina’s marriage started in her matrimonial home as she never saw eye to eye with Alikiba’s relatives.
Kiba and his Kenyan wife also had constant fights over infidelity on the part of the Bongo singer ever since they got married in April 2018.
The Kenyan got pregnant and gave birth to her second child with the singer in 2021 shortly after they separated and got back together.
The two had been rumored to have separated in 2020 before they had their second born in May 2021.
However, in December 2021, Amina and Kiba openly traded accusations on social media. Apparently after the Bongo singer was discovered to be cheating on her with another woman.
Amina got tired of her husband’s infidelity as she moved to Kadhi’s court to dissolve her troubled marriage.
The two got married under Islamic Law on April 19th, 2018 in a glamorous Muslim wedding held in Mombasa, and later proceeded to have a white wedding in Dar-es-Salam, Tanzania.
In her affidavit, Amina is petitioning the court to compel Alikiba to pay her a monthly stipend for their two children.
Amina demanded Ksh200,000 monthly for the upkeep of their two children. She also wanted him to pay for a medical cover for his children.
She accused her estranged husband of not providing any maintenance or prenatal care during her pregnancy and he never cleared hospital bill for the birth of their first child.
“The petitioner (Amina) delivered her first child on February 19, 2019 and as is the tradition of the Muslims remained at her family home for 40 days,” Amina’s petition reads in part.
Amina also indicated in her affidavit that Alikiba has not been consistent in providing for her and their children.
Anerlisa Muigai and Ben Pol
Anerlisa Muigai was heartbroken after constants fights with her Tanzanian ex husband Ben Pol caused their marriage to crumble.
Ben Pol filed for divorce from Anerlisa Muigai in March 2021, just 10 months after their colorful wedding in Mbezi Beach, Dar es Salaam.
Anerlisa and Ben Pol got married in a very private wedding ceremony in Tanzania on May 31st 2020 at the height of Covid-19 pandemic. The wedding was so secret that photos only surfaced online months later.
However, the two separated briefly after only four months of marriage, things between them got heated in September of 2020 and they were not on speaking terms for a month.
“When reports emerged on social media last year that we had split, things were bad, we were not on speaking terms. It is true, we had split for about a month and a half. Things were bad to an extent Anerlisa sent me documents from her lawyers asking for a separation,” Ben Pol revealed in a July 2021 interview.
Ben Pol and Anerlisa however managed to turn things around by the start of November 2020 and were back again serving couple goals. But that was short-lived.
“We were good until February this year  when again the bubble burst. Again, we separated in episodes. We did not speak for three weeks, tried fixing things, and not long we were back in the woods and this time things were pretty intense,”
Ben Pol said he believed insecurities got the better of Anerlisa and that complicated matters even more for their young marriage.
“Going back to the separation letter, from where I sit, I think it was driven by a lot of insecurities and fear. People do so much for the sake of protecting their image. I think she felt I knew so much and maybe one day I would blast. That’s just not me.
“I found the letter from her lawyers baseless because it was actually gagging me not to speak about my marriage. I mean if you are married you have the right to speak about your marriage if you want to, how then do you gag someone from not speaking about their lives if they wish to do so.”
Ben Pol said he tried in vain to save their marriage, he got tired of the back and forth and hence made the bold decision and filed for divorce in March 2021.
“I did my best, when I got into the marriage situation, I was serious, I wasn’t joking or passing time, I had invested in it. The reason why I did a lot of work to make it work and even if we are to do it again, I will not change anything. I will still do what I did to save the situation,” said Ben Pol.
The Bongo singer further stated that his wedding with Anerlisa shouldn’t have happened because there were so many red flags suggesting the marriage wouldn’t work but he kept ignoring the signals.
“What I regret most is the many signals that kept popping up but I kept ignoring them for a very long time. If I had not, the marriage wouldn’t have happened. I believe we are all empowered to foresee our future going by our gut feelings or instincts.
In March 2022, Anerlisa Muigai spoke on her failed marriage to Ben Pol during an interview with Word Is.
Without delving into much details, the Keroche heiress said that cultural difference and education played a big role in her marriage falling part.
Tanasha Donna and Diamond Platnumz
Tanasha and Diamond broke up in 2020 after dating for less than a year. Heartbroken singer returned to Kenya shortly after Valentine’s day 2020 announcing on social media that she had called it quits with Diamond.
In an interview with True Love magazine in April 2020, Tanasha revealed that she left Diamond after six months of trying to make things work in their relationship for the sake of their son.
The sultry Kenyan singer intimated that she felt her baby daddy had lost interest in their relationship and he had stopped trying to work on their relationship.
Tanasha gave birth to a baby boy on October 2nd 2019 – which happened to be also Diamond’s birthday.