In a word: No. What does it mean to settle for you?
Settling is what you do when you just want to be a part of the status quo. That is, we settle when we’re in a position that’s okay, or “good enough.” The situation might be good, but it’s not great, or there’s a problem that’s being overlooked.
An example: Man’s wife cheats on him. He finds out. He chooses to keep with his wife and keep the family unit together… There’s a lot of good in doing so. Love has a lot to do with his decision to stay. Being an outsider, I can only say that I wouldn’t have.
But is it okay to settle? Lots of people do and maybe they should. But you get one crack at this thing, the way I’ve figured it. By “thing” I mean life. So why spend your life in a situation that makes you sad, or drives you crazy . You’ll be 70 and telling some children how they should follow their dreams because you never did. Well, that’s bad.
Walking away from someone you love is hard and it’s so for a reason. When we grow together, our roots intertwine to a point where it’s inconceivable that we would ever be apart.
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It takes great strength and self love to walk away; it’s tough because you leave what’s comfortable for the unknown. I think that’s where many people get tied up, the unknown.
Settling, just means you’re not ready to accept or take a chance on the awesome stuff that life has for you, I feel. You have been told many times, by friends and family “what if you never find someone who loves you like your ex?” Indeed, what if that comes true? That you never meet someone who you can love and who loves you . That would be sad.
“Life is better with a co-pilot,” after all, as George Clooney put it. I can’t see how staying in a situation that isn’t right for you because you fear being alone is any type of good at all. It’s not. I know that being alone doesn’t last… But tough-minded folks do.
Is it ever okay to settle? Slap yourself in the face, No, it’s not. You’re doing more harm to yourself and your significant other by staying in a situation that you both hate.